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The Slow Road to Healing a Heartbreak | Poetry and Article

7:30 PM

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Poems I Wrote During the Bantayan Island Trip (my latest trip)

4:31 PM

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The Concept of "The Secret Life"

12:42 PM

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Success is relatively SUBJECTIVE

4:56 PM

In retrospect, my sixteen-year-old self would've thought that by twenty-six, I have it all figured out. And seeing that where I am today clearly tells that, well, yo, I do not.

And funny how when we were young we always have thought that happiness in our future lives depends on success, well material success for that matter. That success is spelled out with M-O-N-E-Y, and everything along with it, you name it-- your own house and lot, a car, and all the world's luxuries in between.

That by after ten to fifteen years of graduating high school, you'll have things figured out. Society has wired us into thinking that it's what should be the expectations of our future selves.

Unfortunately, though, society has NOT told us, and NOT prepared us, that failure might be along the way. So it's no wonder how people easily get burdened when they realize that the lives they live now are the exact opposite of what they thought would be-- give and take a couple of years into the future.

Personally, I would've wanted for society to be more honest to that sixteen-year-old me and tell me: Okay, so that's where you'd want to be in the future. That sounds like a good plan. But let me be honest and tell you this: There's a chance that this certain expectation of you wouldn't pan out. And when that happens, which in most cases REALLY DO NOT, hey, don't panic, and don't blame yourself. The truth is: sometimes life sucks (also, it's not usually sometimes LOL). And that's totally normal. We don't usually end up where we think we'd end up in the future, so that's basically okay.

Remember that wherever you may be, you are actually where you're supposed to be, so don't fret. What's meant for you will never miss you and what has missed you is never meant for you. Trust in the magic of your own journey, and make sure you learn a lesson or two in each chapter.

And also: SUCCESS IS RELATIVELY SUBJECTIVE, DEPENDING ON THE VALUES YOU LIVE BY. Your measure of success is different from everyone's measure of success, SO WHY DO YOU ACT AS IF THERE'S ONLY A CERTAIN WAY TO BE SUCCESSFUL?

#ThingsItTakeAwhileToUnderstand

I did not realize all of these until now that I am twenty-six.

written by Jong

life

For The Twenty-something Singles

2:47 PM

For The Twenty-something Singles by Jong

One should understand that there really is no timeline in life. That at a certain age, this is where you should be. Screw that. Society wired us to think that way, so now we have a difficulty on thinking a better one. It’s hard to go away with it.

See, we all have different roads we ought to take, so comparisons are of no use, it actually just makes matters worse.

See, just because the world is telling you this and that doesn’t necessarily mean that you should give in to what it dictates you to do.

See, just because friends your age are in relationships or are getting married or are having babies or are having their own families doesn’t necessarily mean you also should be doing the same.

See, there is nothing wrong with being single, with being different, with being true to yourself and with being the person you’re comfortable with. What if it’s not what the world wants? So? It’s never about them anyway. It’s about you at ease with your own skin and not minding what others are thinking or saying. At the end, it’s about you and your choices. It’s about you and your Maker. It’s never going to be about you and the world.

See, it’s perfectly fine to take your time. Go and date yourself, enjoy your own company. Be your own bestfriend. Know what you like and don’t. In the process, be gentle with yourself. You deserve love as much as others do. Fall in love—with the stars, the moon, the flowers, the sunset, the beach, with your job, your family, friends, and especially, with you. You deserve your love, too.

See, don’t give in to the pressure of the world. There are lots, that’s for sure. Relax. Trust the timing of your life. Trust that God listens to your prayers. Trust that He wants what’s best for you, that’s why He wants you to wait. And in waiting, you’ll learn vital life lessons you shouldn’t have learned had you rushed. In a world where instant and fast are all you can hear about here and there, it’s not wrong to take things slow. To pause. Breathe. Be in the moment.

See, instead of trying so hard to “un-single” yourself because of all that pressure, why not take this time to make yourself a priority? Use the liberty to your advantage. Cross off some things in your bucket list. Travel someplace neat. Read a book. Enjoy the rain and toss that umbrella. Fall in love with cold nights and warm beds and your homemade coffee. Make a wish at 11:11. Pray in churches, in temples. Grow and be that person you always want to be, because who knows when you’ll be this single again, right?

See, there really is no timeline, there’s just God who knows you better than the world does. And timelines are man-made, temporary and fleeting, your Maker isn’t. So what if you’re single? So what if you’re not meeting others’ expectations? So what if you’re on a road less travelled? The questions are endless. So what? Don’t let it get into you. As long as you know your purpose and you know you have God in you, you have all you need. And you’re on the right track.

Keep moving. Keep the faith, and everything else will fall into place.